Wednesday I became a great aunt. I am not even 40. I remember when my niece was 17. Time flies by, especially the older I get. This month, which happens to be my birthday month, I’m trying to savor every moment I have to spend with my children, my husband, the rest of my family, and my friends. Life is too short to not take the time to appreciate the small moments. Like on the morning of my birthday, (March 19th) when my 6 year old daughter came into my bedroom and said “Happy birthday mommy!” This is the first time she has ever done this unprompted. It meant the world to me-it was better than any present I could receive.
Appreciate the small moments and kind gestures of others, as opposed to dwelling on negativity. I had a bit of a stressful week or so last week as my daughters had some drama at school (neither their fault, both have since been resolved), and the day after said drama, I lost my Pandora bracelet. For those of you that do not know, a Pandora bracelet is not cheap, and as far as I’m concerned mine happens to be almost as meaningful as my engagement/wedding rings. I was devastated, but I was able to handle this devastation as I looked at the bigger picture. In the midst of this, my co-workers were amazing as they tried to help find my bracelet. Even one male co-worker who was especially concerned lent me a flashlight to ensure I’d thoroughly check my car (he had recalled his wife losing a special piece of jewelry awhile back that they luckily found, so I think he was sympathetic to my husband more than anything)! 😂
At the end of the day, regardless of the sentimental value of my bracelet, it is just a thing. A replaceable thing, at that. Our loved ones and their well being are more important.
When I broke the news about my Pandora bracelet to my husband while he was away on his business trip, he responded “I bet I’ll find it”. Well, on St. Patrick’s Day, he did find it! It happened to be on the floor of our garage, in front of the refrigerator! The luck of the Irish was on our side! 🍀
Needless to say, I was ecstatic that he found it. I’m also glad that, while putting things into perspective, I avoided freaking out too much about the loss of the bracelet in the first place. Probably good considering everyone at work knew I had lost it, but I kept my cool at the same time. 😉
We have all had changes in friendships and have had moments of not seeing relatives for long periods of time. We have also experienced the death of loved ones. There have been random days of conflict. It is the predictable part of life. With every closed door (figuratively speaking, of course), there is a new opportunity. Sometimes this doesn’t come very quickly or obviously, but it certainly gets made clear with time. In other words, things resolve as they should, but I believe patience is key.
In terms of my running life, I have goals that I think so far I have successfully been following this year. One, keep running, and train for speed in the 5k and 10k (getting there). Two, get stronger (thank you Body Pump class and push ups). Three, spend time with people that make you happy. This could be running related or non-running related. Some of my favorite people run like me, while some of my other favorites would not run unless their life depended on it. 😉 While I’m working towards my goals this year, I need to remember prioritizing, perseverance, and patience.
I met my new great nephew today and saw my niece and her husband. Both appeared rather overwhelmed (no surprise there…they’re first time parents after all). I offered words of encouragement. I let them know it gets better-they will sleep again. My niece appreciated the words I shared with her about being completely stressed out and emotional after having our oldest, and wishing I could ‘have my old life back’. She was relieved to know that these feelings are normal. They are so normal-and the feelings change. The baby starts sleeping more, then suddenly the baby is almost 9 and you have three humans that you’re responsible for making into contributing members of society (hopefully), and you wouldn’t have it any other way. They will get there I’m sure…well, at least they will get comfortable in the parenting role, and their son will eventually sleep in longer, more emotionally sustainable stretches. The three children thing? Only time will tell, but in the meantime, prioritizing, perseverance, and patience (copious amounts of patience)!
This month, I celebrated my husband’s birthday, my 6 year old daughter’s birthday, my birthday, the birth of my great nephew, and today is my mom’s birthday. I even have a cousin I haven’t seen in awhile that had a birthday early this month, and one of my aunts has a birthday in a couple days. March is a busy month for birthdays in my family! I also have several friends that have had birthdays this month. Anyone else with a March birthday-welcome to the club! 🙂 Now I need to get back to watching the NCAA basketball tournament! 😄
For those of you that love it…happy running!